Ever since the beginning of the COVID-19 pandemic, families have had to have difficult conversations when trying to make plans. Some families have disagreed about how to gather safely and the risk level involved with getting together.
These conversations can easily become emotionally charged. It’s often hard to see eye-to-eye with someone who holds an opposing view. This is especially true when the topic at hand is a major public health issue.
With the holidays approaching, how can you handle these tough conversations with your relatives? As you get ready to make your holiday plans, follow these tips to navigate conversations with your family.
Discuss Possible Plans Early
If you know there’s a strong chance that you and your family will not be able to come to an agreement on holiday plans that works for everyone, it’s best to get in touch with them as early as possible. That way, you’ll have plenty of time to go over possible solutions and make alternate plans if you realize you won’t be comfortable getting together for a big gathering this year.
Even though you might be nervous about approaching the conversation, it’s a good idea to find out how your relatives feel early on.
Stay Calm During Conversations
When you’re talking about the pandemic with your family members, you might get frustrated easily. You may have had very different experiences during the pandemic that have led you to develop a perspective that clashes with their point of view.
For example, if you work in healthcare, you might take precautions very seriously. And if your relatives don’t understand where you’re coming from, you may be irritated. Aim to keep your tone calm and steady during conversations, even if you’re feeling negative. This can help stop tensions from boiling over.
Find Room for Compromise
Even if you and your family have differing views on the risks presented by the pandemic, you may be able to find areas where you can compromise in order to make sure that everyone feels safe.
For example, if you live in an area where the weather will be warm throughout the fall and winter, you could plan for an outdoor gathering. You could also agree that everyone going to the gathering should schedule a COVID-19 test before attending.
Stick to Your Boundaries
As you chat with your family members, you may feel tempted to walk back on your boundaries in order to keep the peace. But it’s crucial that you do not let anyone talk you into giving up your own boundaries.
You don’t have to compromise your own safety for the sake of other people. While you may be able to find a middle ground that works for everyone, it’s important to remember that compromise takes two. You have a right to make choices that will keep you safe.
Remember It’s Okay to Say No
At the end of the day, you have to make holiday plans you feel truly comfortable with. You do not want to spend your holidays worrying about whether you could be exposed to the virus.
If you and your family cannot decide on a plan that allows everyone to feel genuinely safe, you may feel better simply spending the holidays elsewhere this year. It’s difficult to tell your family “No” during the holiday season. But if you know that this is what’s best for your health and wellbeing, it may be necessary.
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