When you’re dating someone, you might assume that it’s healthy to spend as much time together as possible. If you’ve just gotten together, and you’re in the midst of the “honeymoon phase,” you’ll naturally try to see each other as often as possible. But you don’t have be attached at the hip in order to have a healthy, happy relationship! In fact, giving each other space can be hugely beneficial.
It may seem counterintuitive, but personal space is integral to a fulfilling relationship. Spending some time on your own is a good idea for both partners. Here’s why setting boundaries to create personal time within a relationship is a smart idea.
Having “Me Time” Is Beneficial
Having time to yourself can be very enjoyable. When you have a block of “me time,” you don’t have to consider anyone’s preferences but your own. Plus, you can simply relax. You’re not under any pressure to entertain anyone else or manage their emotions.
It’s okay to be a little self-centered sometimes, and “me time” is the perfect opportunity. You can stay in your pajamas for hours, watch silly movies, have a home spa day, or read in silence. “Me time” means that you don’t have to make plans
The Perks of Your Own Physical Space
Do you and your partner have a house of your own or an apartment with multiple rooms? If so, you may be able to set up your own physical spaces, too! For interest, each person might want a cozy corner for reading, working out, working on art projects, or even playing video games.
If you and your partner live in a small apartment or a house with other roommates, you might not have the ability to create a space that is solely for you. But even if you share spaces, you can try putting up decor that reflects your specific tastes and interests.
Maintaining Independent Interests
Chances are, you and your partner have a few hobbies in common. However, it’s also pretty likely that you each have a few hobbies that the other isn’t particularly interested in. For example, maybe your partner isn’t a huge fan of horror movies.
But if they’re having a night out with their friends, you can have a horror movie marathon at home! You won’t share every single interest with your partner, but if you can carve out some me time, you don’t have to give up those interests, either. Instead, you can enjoy your individual interests on your own time.
“Absence Makes the Heart Grow Fonder”
You might think that the more time you and your partner spend together, the closer you’ll get, and the deeper your love will grow. While it’s expected that you and your partner will want to be together often, you do not need to spend all of your time together to strengthen your relationship.
There is a lot of truth behind the saying “Absence makes the heart grow fonder.” When you spend time apart, you realize just how much you appreciate your partner and the unique qualities they bring to the table.
Avoiding Codependency
Finally, spending time on your own even when you’re in a relationship can help you and your partner avoid becoming codependent. When you know that you can enjoy time to yourself, you won’t feel as though you have to rely on your partner to fulfill all of your emotional needs.
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